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Sunday, 12 January 2014

Love yourself!

I was at a friend's office last week for a creative meeting. Yes after work we got on the gurly chit chats about love and life. She told me how she manages to make herself happy. She's been married for 4 yrs. Kemi told me how she takes it upon herself to make her family happy. She also stressed how important it is to love oneself. This brings me to my first topic of the year.

Loving yourself is much more than style, material possession, career, a designer bag. It's more than the relationship you are in. Loving yourself is acceptance and contentment of who you are and will become. It's about your amazing traits and flaws all boxed into one without worry. Loving yourself is the beginning of living as that transcends to all other areas of your life.

Loving yourself might be a process.... Do not over love yourself at the expense of others. Loving yourself is a sense of self that's just confident. If you feel too fat this year, that should not be a problem at all. All you need do is love that excess till you lose it. Just love you.

No matter your status you must continue to feel good about yourself because if you cannot do it for yourself, someone somewhere will do the appraisal for you according to their own beliefs. They will tell you your worth and value

Always pay attention to your needs. Be aware of your nature and cravings. If you satisfy your needs you will be happy with your self. Do not create baseless needs. You might wanna differentiate the 
meaning of NEED and WANT. Hehehe don't want you getting worked up over your wants. They will come. Give time some time but it's your responsibility to satisfy your NEEDS.

Honour what you believe to be right and best for you even though it may be different from that of your mate (or others). It's ok! We are all different people 
Feed your soul daily. Free your mind of changing the world or buying the latest house in town. Do something recreational. Set your soul free from worry. Focus on what you have that makes you feel good. Enjoy the outdoors and appreciate life.

Sleep well, eat well, exercise, laugh and drink water. Say no without feeling bad. Say yes only if you want to. Live your life first before you consider others. 

This applies to love relationships as loving yourself will increase your capacity to love another. You can only give love from the abundance you have within you

Don't wait a second! Start loving you. You owe yourself that this yr! What self love have you been denying yourself? 


  1. Well written Teniola. Welcome back ma'am

  2. Thank you Teniola. Happy new yr

  3. I always forget to love myself and get soaked with loving my husband and kids. I look older than my age already. Thanks for inspiring me with this lovely piece.

  4. I find it hard to shop for myself. I worry about everyone else needs maybe its a first born thing. I will love myself too from now on

  5. Madam Teni! Nice one.

  6. Thank you for reminding me

  7. It's amazing how my kids and hubby comes before me in anything. It's a struggle to consider myself before them. Thank you Teniola, I should try once in a while.

  8. Lovely write up. Thank you ;-) Mz!