I have been following your blog for few months now. I saw your post about relationships on Facebook. I hope I get answers on your blog.
My boyfriend's ex recently moved to town and she is part of his group of friends from school. I have expressed jealousy and concern over her presence in his life. I have been dating him for 9months now. She is engaged but my worry isn't about her doing anything. My fear is that he is fooling himself and he has a special feelings for her that will keep us from being able to forge something new. I have never believed in being good friends with an ex and need to be more open-minded. Maybe it is because this is an especially close group of friends and I don't feel like I fit in.
Should I just work to get over my jealousy since he has assured me again and again that I have nothing to worry about? Or, since the jealousy really stems from my insecurities, is this something that will be impossible for me to get past until I take time to be by myself? Some people say that it is OK to be friends with an ex, others say it can't be done without there being some kind of intimate feelings there. Pls can you share my worries with your readers? I would like to hear your opinion and everyone else.
Hello Shy chic,
I would quote you in your own words. 'Should I just work to get over my jealousy since he has assured me again and again that I have nothing to worry about?'. You shouldn't be your own problem my dear. Go out with his friends and forget about his ex. You are in a relationship with him not with everyone else. Focus on him. You can also share your insecurities with him so he can help you through the social outing and worries. Goodluck!
Guys pls give shy chic an advice. Should she worry about an engaged ex?