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Wednesday 30 October 2013

Who is a faithful partner?

Rather than answer this question, I’ll ask another question. If being faithful is easy, then why do so many people cheat? Have you asked your partner if they’ve always been faithful or their thoughts on cheating?
To be clear, I’m not only talking about physical encounters. Many people limit their definition of cheating to physical encounters. However, most infidelities isn't just about the physical. You often work your way up to the physical point, so what about all those missteps you took on your way there?
What about all those indiscretions you overlooked, ignored, or somehow excused..... You know the type: the extra DM on Twitter, the inappropriate ‘Like’ on a Facebook picture you had no business viewing in the first place, or the “hey, how have you been?” you respond to on Linkedin. There is real life: the extra flirtatious laugh or suggestion you give or overlook from a person of interest, the smile you return while shopping for groceries...... Oh endless goof from our part....hehehe. We are human right? ....and can't help it. Would you call all these cheating or being unfaithful without necessarily living out the reality.
I know most people would say that being faithful is easy. Pardon my curiosity. Are those who are faithful relatively stronger than those who are not? What makes them so strong? Is it about our individual morals? Or do they simply have more will power than those that cheat? Is it harder to be faithful than it is to cheat? Do men or women have it harder or easier? At what point is it called unfaithfulness?


7 comments:

  1. No man or woman except a Saint that can observe all these conditions all in the name of being faithful to a partner. You can not even look at any body of the opposite sex? These rules are too draconian and impossible to follow.

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  2. Faithfulness/unfaithfulness is not an act, it is a heart position and it is consciously cultivated.

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  3. Unfaithfulness is when you act it out, every other process can be excused.

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  4. Its easier for men to cheat while most women are pushed before cheating

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  5. Faithfulness is a practice.

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  6. A faithful partner is one that respects his/her spouse, works hard to overcome temptations and also fears God.

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  7. It takes great determination not to..

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