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Wednesday, 20 November 2013

Age Difference! Big deal or not?

Dating an older or younger guy can be a challenge. A lot of the time it's the remarks from those who disapprove (or don't understand) that make it so difficult. Like any relationship, if it's sincere and you're both committed to making an effort, it can work cos I believe there's nothing new under the sun. I also try to have a flexible mindset for life issues

One of the first things that you must remember when you're dealing with big age differences in a relationship is age is just a number. It doesn't define you. You could be 21 and be as mature as a 30 year old and you could be a 50 year old and have the brain of a 25. Yes, It all depends on your personality and the personality of your partner. That doesn't mean that big age differences in a relationship is easy to handle, but just keep in mind that the age is just a number. 

A strong connection is what keeps relationships going. With an age difference, you should make sure the connection is there early on and that both people feel it. A physical connection isn't just enough. Make sure you both can understand where the other is in life. Some girls love dating older guys because they feel that guys their own age aren't mature enough while some girls just love the younger guys. If your common ground is firm? shoot!

Ultimately, it's you who calls the shots on whom you date. Don't think that you need to convince everyone of your love. While support from your loved ones is important, don't dwell on every single remark you hear about the relationship. Some people have nothing better to do than criticize. People connect with people of all sorts of ages for a variety of reasons. Don't think that you're supposed to be with someone your age. If you know the relationship is right (and legal), then stick with it.

So, have you? Or do know anyone who has ever been in a relationship with a wide age gap? younger or older?  Age difference in relationships, big deal or not? Share your views.


  1. I know of one and she's doing excellently well!

  2. I can't date younger guys but I can still date someone older no matter the age difference

  3. Age difference is nothing new in modern times. The world is settling down to a global culture

  4. Nice topic. Keep it up